So I am a mama of two little boys. We are in the infant/toddler stages right now, which means that the majority of my day is spent being “mama.” Raising my boys is my top priority, and I structure my time to prioritize that. But I also have found that I’m a much nicer mama when I can get some time for myself.
I’ve found that my littles are pretty unpredictable these days. I’ll bank on getting a two hour nap out of my two year old, only to find him waking up early. On days when we have somewhere to go, however, you can almost guarantee that he will sleep late! And it is almost impossible to have their naps overlap. Almost.
So when that rare miracle happens that I have a few moments of child-free time, I’ve learned to be prepared.
If that magical, unplanned for time happens, the absolute worst thing I can do is to try to make a decision about what to do. The pressure of the moment combined with mommy-brain and an uncertainty about how long my moment will last does not create a good environment for decision-making. All too often I’ve waffled about my choices until it is too late, and then I resent having to go back to my normal flow because I didn’t get a chance to enjoy the gift of free time when I had it.
If not, please tell me what you are doing differently!
For now, I’ve discovered that I can mostly avoid this emotional catastrophe by being prepared ahead of time. I’ll pick a project for the week (or day) that I’d like to work on if I can get the chance. I make sure that it is something I can get to work on at a moment’s notice with very little preparation, and something that I can put down with very little cleanup.
This week my go-to has been baby quilts that I’ve been meaning to make for people. Other weeks it might be a book that I want to read, a sweater I’m knitting, or writing a letter to a friend. Special things that bring me joy and a blessed bit of peace to combat the typical chaos of raising little people.
What do you do for yourself when you find an unexpected moment of ‘me’ time? I’d love to hear!